Don't use the D-word.
Before Kevin and I got married, we had a meeting with the youth pastor at our church and his wife. Because our wedding was so last minute we didn't get to do the usual counseling, but something that was said at this simple meeting over lunch changed our view on marriage forever.
"Don't even let the word enter your marriage. Don't talk about it. If the word is never in your mind, then it won't be the first thing you think of anytime you have an argument or fight."
Such simple advice, but honestly, the most important advice we have ever heard.
We don't talk about it. We don't use the "D" word. It's hard, because it's all around us. We see people we care about go through it. Heck, it's all you see. Everywhere you look, there's a marriage ending. It's the trendy thing to do.
If we ever have an argument or a fight, we make up. We talk it through, and that word that carries so much poison never makes an appearance.
It makes me emotional to think about because I know that simple lunch at Lupi's changed our lives forever. We put the advice to work each day, and I think if we had never heard it, our marriage would be in a much different place. How could it not be?
In a world where it is all around, don't use the d-word.
"Therefore, what God has joined together, let no one separate." Matthew 19:6
